Ma ditemi ? Dove dormono i vostri figli?Mia figlia dorme in mezzo a noi da quasi 1 anno e anche tata Francesca è a favore del lettone anche se non prima dell’ anno di vita. Gli esperti dell’ osservatorio Chicco, che erano presenti all’ evento, hanno tenuto a ribadire che fino ad 1 anno il bambino deve dormire dritto, appoggiato alla schiena e non sulla pancia, nel suo lettino, non troppo coperto e con una temperatura nella stanza che va dai 18 ai 20 gradi, in camera comunque di mamma e papà perché queste abitudine diminuisce del 50% le morti in culla. La Chicco tra l’altro ha creato una culla che si può attaccare al lettone sicura, comoda e molto bella. Si è parlato poi del momento in cui trasferire il bambino  nel suo letto, argomento che mi tocca molto da vicino … “-Quando, come e cosa dico io a Ginevra?”. Aiuto! Ogni volta che le spiego che la sua cameretta è quella a fianco di mamma e papà e non quella dove dorme ora mi fa il musetto duro e mi dice: “No etta mia camela!”, indicandomi la nostra! Tata Francesca dice di provare ad inventarsi qualcosa di veramente grande o  speciale: una storia dedicata al bambino, comprare una sorta di lampada magica, cercare di creare un’atmosfera in cui il bimbo  riconosca  nella sua cameretta  un mondo incantato. Tata Francesca ci ha spiegato che nel giro di 2 settimane il bambino impara a dormire da solo … Io tra poco tenterò  e vi terrò aggiornati! Speriamo. Un altro tema toccato è stato quello di noi mamme che ci sentiamo sempre inadeguate, voi come vi sentite? Cosa rispondereste alla mia domanda? Che mamma siete?Io sono sicuramente super ansiosa ! Personalmente ho dei sensi di colpa nei  confronti di mia figlia perché Ginevra è nata in 8 mesi e penso sempre che se avessi lavorato meno, fossi rimasta più a riposo, lei sarebbe nata giusta e non prematura! Tata Francesca ci ha consigliato di perdonarci! Dai mamme, tutte con me, siamo delle super mamme? Certo, perché amiamo i nostri figli più della nostra vita anche se commettiamo degli errori. Quelli ci saranno sempre, ma perdoniamoci! Ognuno fa quel che può, ma la perfezione non esiste! In ultimo ma non meno importante i nostri mariti, compagni, fidanzati  o comunque padri dei nostri figli, dovrebbero ricordarcelo sempre! Papà, fatelo vi prego! Ne abbiamo tanto bisogno, ma tanto! Diteci che siamo delle super, uniche e magnifiche madri! Nicola in questo è bravissimo, mi dice spesso: “-Sei un disastro in tutto, ma sei una mamma super! Non c’è nessuna meglio di te!”. Meno male!! Vuol dire che almeno so fare qualcosa! Vi abbraccio, a presto!!

Would you like to know who I met?? Nanny Francesca!! Yes, I went to a meeting organized by her that took place last Saturday in Vicenza and where we had the chance to discuss about several things! Good morning love people, today I am addressing mostly to all the parents out there! Francesca is really good at her job, she’s nice and friendly and we discussed with her about the topic of children who sleep with their parents. Where do your kids sleep? Well, my daughter sleeps between us since about one year and a half and Nanny Francesca agrees with letting children in bed with mom and dad, but not until they are at least one year old because, as stated by the experts from Chicco, which participated in the meeting, for the first year babies need to sleep straight, laying on their back in their own crib, and the room temperature should range between 18 and 20 degrees Celsius. Though they should still sleep in mom and dad’s room, as it decreases SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome), also known as crib death, by 50%. The company Chicco has designed a crib that can be attached to the parents’ bed and it is safe, comfortable and really cute. We also covered a topic that I can easily relate to: the moment when children have to go back to their own bed. When, how and what do I say to Ginevra? Help! Each time I try to explain to her that her room is actually the one next to mom and dad’s, she gets all grouchy and, pointing at our room tells me: “No, this is my room!”. Nanny Francesca suggests to come up with some great and really special idea such as inventing a story dedicated to the children themselves, buying a “magical” lamp, something that could create the right ambiance, allowing the child to feel like being in their room can be like entering an enchanted world. Nanny Francesca says that this way we should be able to convince our little ones to sleep on their own in the short time of 2 weeks. I will start soon with this attempt, I will let you know how it goes! Another thing we talked about is that us mom feel inadequate most of the time, how do you feel? What would you answer to the question: “what type of mom are you”?. I surely am very anxious. And I also feel a little guilty towards Ginevra because she was born in eight months and I keep telling myself that if I hadn’t work so much during pregnancy, if I had relaxed a little more, maybe she would have reached full term! Nanny Francesca recommends to forgive ourselves! Come on moms, aren’t we all super moms? Of course we are, because we love our children more than our life and even if we make mistakes we should always forgive ourselves, perfection does not exist! The last topic we have discussed was that our husbands, partners, boyfriends, who are the fathers of our babies, should always remind us about how good we are as moms! Do your husbands tell you that? The task of men is to comfort us and give us the strength we need! Please do that! We really, really need it! Tell us we are amazing, unique and incredible moms! Nicola is great at this, he often tells me: “You are such a mess at everything, but you are a great mom! There is no one better than you!”. Thank Goodness, at least I get that!! It means in the end I can do something! I will talk to you soon, a big hug!

Lullabies….sometimes my daughter sings them to me, I have spent so many hours singing lullabies for her that now she know all of them by heart. Our favorite one is the lullaby of the coffee bean, which begins like this: “Lullaby, mom take me with you, in your big bed at least for a moment…” do you know it? Though, now the lullabies phase has passed and we are going through the stage of: ”mom, can you read me a story?” how could I say no? In my own library there are over three hundred books I have read, I couldn’t live without reading and I hope I will be able to pass this fundamental passion down to my daughter! That’s why, before bed time, we read a book! She is also going through the temper tantrum phase, you know, the phase people call the “terrible twos”! Yes, we all know that this is the age of tantrums, Ginevra, who is normally a nice, smiley and happy little girl, is having some terrible moments where she cries and yells and if we don’t do what she says we are all in trouble! She definitely has a temper!! Sometimes my mom looks at me, smiles and tell me that now I should know what it means to have a daughter like I was! I know, I have always had an independent attitude and I have always achieved what I wanted, no matter if I was right or wrong, whenever I would decide to do something I had to do it! My daughter is just like me, but I know that this attitude is going to help her out a lot in life and she is going to make a long way! But right now, for me, it’s a tough task! So I gather all my patience, a lot of patience, so much that if I tried to sell it I would make enough money to buy the sky, and I talk to her, I hold and cuddle her and I explain things…and at night, I choose to read her stories that could help her grow up with the right values. That’s why in the past days we have been reading “No, no, yes, yes”, a little book from the Chicco-De Agostini collection that helps the little ones becoming grownups! She loves reading before bed time and now she can also learn how Luca, the main character, learns when to say yes and when to say no. Ginevra makes me laugh because when I tell her that she has to be good like Luca she smiles and says yes, as if she knew exactly what I’m talking about, but then I understand that she’s only saying yes to make me happy! When I told my mom about this her answer was: “Well, you have been saying yes and doing what you want your entire life!”. Life a circle. Anyway, I highly suggest this book collection and, if you are facing the “terrible twos” right now, this book in particular is the best! A big hug and kiss.